Growth and Fixed Mindset

Always aspire to have a Growth Mindset rather than a Fixed Mindset. To understand the difference and impact each have on you and your development, A Stanford University psychologist named Carol Dweck had this to say:

"A “fixed mindset” assumes that our character, intelligence, and creative ability are static givens which we can’t change in any meaningful way, and success is the affirmation of that inherent intelligence, an assessment of how those givens measure up against an equally fixed standard; striving for success and avoiding failure at all costs become a way of maintaining the sense of being smart or skilled. 

.....A “growth mindset,” on the other hand, thrives on challenge and sees failure not as evidence of unintelligence but as a heartening springboard for growth and for stretching our existing abilities"

She went further to explain that over the years she has seen many people that exhibit the fixed mindset trait having a constant goal of proving themselves—in the classroom, in their careers, and in their relationships. They see every situation as a call for a confirmation of their intelligence, personality, or character. Every situation is evaluated: Will I succeed or fail? Will I look smart or dumb? Will I be accepted or rejected? Will I feel like a winner or a loser? . . .

While those with growth mindset are guided on the belief that 'your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts'. Although people may differ in every which way — in their initial talents and aptitudes, interests, or temperaments — everyone can change and grow through application and experience.

My favorite part of her research was where she said:

 "Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you? The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives."

MIG

Letter to All those that Kill in the Name of Islam

For all those Killing innocent Christians (and other innocent souls) around the world in the name of Islam; from  Ar-Raqa to Askira, Gwoza to Deir ez-Zur, Damboa to Diyala, Chibok to Baquba. You guys are not only misinterpreting Scripture but rather Violating a clear instruction of the Prophet of Islam regarding such. Or maybe you are simply ignorant of such facts and your ignorance is now costing lives of innocent people & giving the beautiful religion of Islam a bad name.

I'm saying this because i don't expect you to tell me that you never came across a letter sent by the Prophet of Islam Muhammad (Peace be Upon Him) to the Christian monks at St. Catherines, Mount Sinai in 628 AD that reads like:

“This is a message from Muhammad ibn Abdullah, as a covenant to those who adopt Christianity, near and far, we are with them.

Verily I, the servants, the helpers, and my followers defend them, because Christians are my citizens; and by Allah! I hold out against anything that displeases them.

No compulsion is to be on them.

Neither are their judges to be removed from their jobs nor their monks from their monasteries.

No one is to destroy a house of their religion, to damage it, or to carry anything from it to the Muslims’ houses.

Should anyone take any of these, he would spoil God’s covenant and disobey His Prophet. Verily, they are my allies and have my secure charter against all that they hate.

No one is to force them to travel or to oblige them to fight.

The Muslims are to fight for them.

If a female Christian is married to a Muslim, it is not to take place without her approval. She is not to be prevented from visiting her church to pray.

Their churches are to be respected. They are neither to be prevented from repairing them nor the sacredness of their covenants.

No one of the nation (Muslims) is to disobey the covenant till the Last Day (end of the world).”

Please find another excuse to Kill innocent people but stop hiding behind Islam! This excuse doesn't hold water anymore! But from the look of things, based on your Modus Operandi, it wont be difficult for you to come up with another silly excuse because Nowadays I noticed that you Kill just about Anyone!! Muslims, Atheists,  women, children and the elderly as long as they don't subscribe to your Evil ways!

May God destroy all the Evil-doers that live around the Forest of Sambisa to the Mountains of Gwoza, far east to the Valleys of the Euphrates and Tigris!


MIG

A Random Encounter

Some people are blessed with the ability of taking advantage of any situation they found themselves in, no matter how random... 

This is a story of a short random encounter. It goes like this:

It was a Friday, and Friday means playing football in the evening. This Friday was not different of any other, we got ready with a few friends and headed to the pitch where we play.It seems we were a bit early this Friday, because the pitch is closed and we seem to be the first to arrive, this means we need to get the guys that look after the pitch to come open it for us. Two went to get them, and two of us stayed back doing some light ball work by the pitch side. That was when i noticed two ladies passing closely to where i was standing.To my surprise i saw to this 2 familiar face. I don't know their names but I know i have seen them before. In a split second i remembered i saw them during events organised by the Islamic society in Nottingham. As they came close to me and about to pass, i extended the Islamic greetings of  'Assalamu Alaikum' and they answered 'Wa alaikumussalam'. I think they recognized my face as familiar (like i did their's) atleast one of them has, Im sure. Just when i turned to get the ball that was kicked towards me, one of them uttered the simple, apparently random but important words (reflecting back now). She said 'Can u please say a Du'a for us?' I was like 'Du'a?' she said 'Yeah we are going for an exam now' I said 'Oh! I pray that God makes you succeed in this exam' she said 'Ameen!' They passed and i continued playing football.

A few hours later i reflected back on this encounter. That was when i realized the magnitude of this little moment of randomness and its lasting effect on me. I began to draw lessons out of it which also includes the realization of how some people see an opportunity in getting ends meet either by meeting a random stranger or finding themselves in a difficult or trying situation. It also made me to appreciate the etiquette of Islam even more. Which always teaches and encourages people to honor anyone they see young or old and ask them to pray Du'a for them whenever they are in need, because you may never whose prayer is going to be accepted.

This encounter had such a profound effect on me that i have prayed to God to make those ladies succeed in their exams several times in the day and Im sure i will keep praying for them whenever i remember. This was made possible only because a lady deem it fit to ask a random person whose name she doesn't even know to say a Du'a for them, and now Du'a he will keep saying for them!

Lesson: Some random encounters you have with people, leave a long lasting impression on them without you ever realizing! So be nice and positive in anything and with anyone you meet, even if you think you will never see them again!

Don't Blame Boko Haram for Chibok Girls Kidnap, Blame Yourself first!

By 
Mallam Ibrahim Gumel


“Never open the door to a lesser evil, for other and greater ones invariably slink in after it." Baltasar Gracián, 1647.

First I will start by saying there is no Justification whatsoever for Kidnapping of the Over 270 Girls in Nigeria by Boko Haram! But I think we have being all responsible slightly or otherwise for the situation that led to the Kidnap. If anything, this incident has exposed our hypocrisy in choosing the battle to fight, the cause to represent and the plight to sympathize with...

I am saying this because since the beginning of Boko Haram insurgency over 5 years ago, the Nigerian military has been documented to have carried and is still carrying extensive human right abuses that include among others indiscriminate arrest/detention without trial of innocent people, Torture, Killings, blackmail and intimidation of insurgents and innocent citizens alike...

Some of the people arrested and detained for months/years are women and children...It is a common occurrence for the Nigerian army and/or police to raid an alleged insurgent/terrorist home, only to arrest his wife and children if he wasn't found at there....with the clear intention that holding his innocent family will push him to turn himself in! If he refuses to turn himself in, his family can be held for months or years in detention for a crime they didn't commit! Such tactics by the Nigerian security personnel are not isolated incidents; they are more or less official policy that is known and giving a tacit approval by those at the highest chain of command.

The tragedy is not just what the security personnel are doing, but rather the indifference and sometimes active encouragement given to such acts by ordinary citizens that for example feel good (without asking questions) whenever they hear that a terrorist has been arrested but his wife and two children are killed as a result. Such sentiments are manifested in different ways that includes the 'I don't care' attitude of the ordinary man on the street, to the NGOs that are suppose to be promoting human rights but turn a blind eye. Including the media that either refuses to report or sugarcoat such incidents. Down to the social media birds and activist that care more about reporting the President and his Wife Gaffes than bringing the Plight of the suppressed to the forefront, and lastly to the international community that looked the other way during the Rwandan Genocide, and now only showing interest in Nigeria's War on terror after sensing an opportunity to play a so called 'strategic partner' in-order to get a slice of Africa's biggest economy when the dust settles down!

We have condemned the over 270 Girls to the misery of what happened to them on April 14th long before that dark electricity-less Night in Chibok. The Nigerian Government that has the prime responsibility of protecting the lives of its Young jewels has shown time and time again that it is grossly incapable and Criminally Negligent to the adversities faced by the citizens of the North east.

The sad reality is, if it wasn't the Girls of Government Girls secondary school Chibok, it would have been those of Government girls school Baga, or the Girls of Government Teachers College Gwoza or even those Kids of Anchor Model School, in Askira/Uba. The signs have been there for everyone to see. But what did we do after seeing those signs? Nothing! 

That is why the blood of these girls is on our head, all of us! This makes the statement of an Irish statesman in the name of 'Edmund Burke' almost 100 years ago as apt then as it is now, he said 'The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing'.

God always comes to the aid of Humanity in its most trying hour. But will God come to the rescue of Humans that have lost Humanity? Only time will tell!